The cities where I was born

  Chisinau the city where I was born.

I set out to write this about the cities I have traveled to in my life, and it will contain several parts.

I started with the first part of Chisinau where I was born, it will follow with other cities that I do not want to divulge, it will follow the course of my stories.

I wrote this article at the end of 2014, when I came to Oman. When I left Chisinau with a broken heart and some unrealized dreams. My heart was crying for some fabulous places, which I had beautiful memories, leaving behind places and people who taught me a lot. On this occasion I want to thank them for their appearance in my life. God has given me some beautiful gifts that I will never forget.

I honestly like to leave behind not only memories, but also something to remember them fondly of me. My journey through the world is not over yet. I think it is just beginning and will continue beautifully like a flowing river in the direction it needs to go. This journey continues beautifully, with a lot of fun, adrenaline and a lot of courage that lately I lack so much comfort. You realize that you are keeping up and you don't want to break away from this comfort so that you can do something for your life.

I started writing this article of soul I can say so, when I was at a crossroads at a time, I still did not know that life has to settle me in a place where I have to take root to dig them into earth, in a place still unknown to me.

But I let myself be swept away by the wave. And I thought of writing about each of my experiences, and the history that connects me to these wonderful places, but also the history of each place where I set foot.

Each place has a different history and a close connection that flows through our blood.

History is our identity, culture and values. It never looks, it is a tree deep rooted in the ground and remains there forever. He never looks. It ages on these lands, in case it is just cut from its roots.

For a long time I wanted to write about the city of Chisinau, but I did not find the right time. I left this article when inspiration will reappear and make its way into my life. And then the inspiration came at the right time to write about the beautiful places where I set foot, and I left something behind.

But now, I really want to write about my beautiful travels and experiences, lived in Chisinau, but also lived in Romania, at least this city is not close to my soul. Here I was born and raised until I left for Romania and then I went back to start something new.

But for a start, I fondly remember my childhood spent in the country with my cousins ​​and my grandmother, who unfortunately are only alive. But they were our first teachers of education, the first wise word, the first smile and warm hugs when you came to the country in the summer.

The summer was long because you didn't want to leave, here was the first love, the first friendships and the first things you will never forget.

I do not want to go into detail that I would have much to tell, but in short I would like to say that Chisinau has changed its facade several times, several periods of history. Chisinau did not look the way it does now. And I can't say that anything from that period has been preserved. It was still destroyed by the regimes that were then and now. It was a city with cobbled streets and facades of houses preserved from the interwar period. But everything was destroyed by the war, changed by the socialist regimes of then and now.

Those who have never been to Chisinau, Republic of Moldova I want to invite you to visit because you have what you visit are very beautiful places and you can sweeten with the natural goodness of the place.

In a previous article in 2011, I wrote about the city of Chisinau, very little about what it is actually facing today. And I'm not talking about the political and economic situation, but I'm talking about the socio-cultural situation, values ​​and education of the next generation.

I would not like to go into too much detail about the problems faced by the people of this country, because I would bore you too much. But I would like to show you what Chisinau really looks like today.

Many times I have thought about writing about Chisinau from a historical point of view, but I will not do it. I will let you discover it when you come to visit and you will discover it yourself. You have something to see. You will not regret coming to Chisinau.

I will not talk much about Chisinau because I wrote two articles about the city and I will put the links below to read them about the city of Chisinau.

          Written by Elena Bogus

Prima parte: Orașele în care m-am născut

Chișinău orașul în care m-am născut.

Mi-am propus să scriu acest despre orașele în care am călătorit în viața mea, și va conține mai multe părți. 

Am început cu prima parte Chișinăul în care m-am născut, va urmă cu alte orașe pe care nu vreau să le divulg va urma pe parcusul povestiri mele.

Acest articol l-am scris la sfârșitul anului 2014, când eram venită în Oman. Când am plecat din Chișinău cu inima înfrântă și cu niște visuri nerealizate. Inima îmi plângea după niște locuri fabuloase, care  am avut  amintiri frumoase, lăsând în urma mea locuri și oameni care m-au învățat multe. Cu această ocazie vreau să le mulțumesc pentru apariția lor în viața mea. Dumnezeu mi-a dat niște cadouri frumoase pe care nu le voi uita niciodată.

Sincer îmi place să las în urma mea nu doar amintiri, dar și ceva care să le amintească cu drag de mine. Această călătorie a mea prin lume încă nu s-a terminat. Eu cred că deabia se începe și va continua frumos ca un râu curgător în direcția care trebuie să ajungă. Această călătorie continuă frumos, cu multă perepeții, adrenalină și mult curaj care în ultima vreme îmi lipsește de atâta confort.  Îți dai seama că ții pasul pe loc și nu vrei să te rupi de acest confort ca să poți face ceva pentru viața ta.

Am  început să scriu acest articol de suflet pot săi spun așa, când eram într-o perioadă la răscruce de drumuri, încă nu știam că viața are să mă stabilească într-un loc în care trebuie să-mi desfac rădăcinile pentru a le înfinge în pământ, într-un loc încă necunoscut pentru mine. 

Dar m-am lăsat dusă de val. Și m-am gândit să scriu despre fiecare experiență a mea, și istoria ce mă leagă de aceste locuri minunate, dar și istoria fiecărui loc unde am pus piciorul.

Fiecare loc are o istorie aparte și o legătură strânsă ce curge prin sângele nostru.

Istoria este identitatea, cultura și valorile noastre. Ea nu se uită niciodată, este un copac adânc rădăcinat în pâmânt și rămâne pe vecie acolo. Nu se uită niciodată. Îmbătrânește pe aceste meleaguri, în caz doar i se taie de la rădăcini.

Încă demult am vrut să scriu despre orașul Chișinău, dar nu am găsit momentul potrivit. Am lăsat acest articol când inspirația va apărea iar și își va face loc în viața mea. Și iacă inspirația a venit la momentul oportun să scriu despre locurile frumoase în care  am pus piciorul, și am lăsat ceva în urma mea.

Dar acuma, chiar vreau să scriu despre călătoriile şi experienţele mele frumoase, trăite în Chişinău, dar şi trăite în România, măcar că acest oraş nu este aproape de sufletul meu. Aici m-am născut și am crescut până am plecat în România și pe urmă m-am reîntors înapoi pentru a începe ceva nou.

Dar pentru început să-mi aduc aminte cu drag de copilărie petrecută la țară alături de verișori și de bunei care din păcate numai sunt  în viață.  Dar ei au fost primi noștri învățători ai educație, prima vorbă înțeleaptă, primul zâmbet și îmbrățișări călduroase când veneai la țară pe timp de vară.

Vara era lungă că nu mai vroiai să pleci, aici era prima iubire, primele prietenii legate și primele perepeții de care nu vei uita niciodată.

Nu vreau să intru în detaliu că aș avea mult de povestit, dar pe scurt aș vrea să povestesc că Chișinăul a fost schimbat fațada de mai multe ori, mai multe perioade ale istorie. Chișinăul nu arăta înainte cum arată acum. Și nu pot să zic ca sa păstrat ceva din perioadă aceea. Tot a fost distrus de regimurile care au fost atunci și acum. Era un oraș cu străduțe pavate  și fațade ale caselor păstrate din perioada interbelică. Dar totul a fost distrus de război, schimbate de regimurile socialiste de atunci și acum.

Cei care nu au fost vreodată în Chișinău, Republica Moldova vreau să vă invit să vizitați că aveți ce vizita sunt locuri foarte frumoase și puteți să vă îndulciți cu bunătățile naturale de ai locului.

Într-un articol precedent din 2011, am scris despre orașul Chișinău, foarte puțin cu ce se confruntă de fapt în ziua de azi. Și nu mă refer la situația politico-economic, dar mă refer la situația socio-culturală, valori și educația generației care vine.

Nu aș vrea să intru în detalii prea mult despre problemele cu care se confruntă locuitorii acestei țării, că v-aș plictisi prea mult. Dar aș vrea să vă arătat de fapt  cum arată Chișinău în realitate în ziua de azi.

De multe ori m-am gândit să scriu despre Chișinău din punct de vedere istoric, dar nu o voi face. Vă voi lăsa să o descoperiți voi când ve-ți veni în vizită și o ve-ți descoperi singuri. Aveți ce vedea. Nu ve-ți regreta dacă ve-ți veni în Chișinău.

Nu am să povestesc mult despre Chișinău pentru că am scris două articole despre oraș și voi pune link-urile mai jos pentru a le citi despre orașul Chișinău.

https://boguselenush.blogspot.com/2011/06/chisinau-capitala-basarabiei-m-am.html

https://boguselenush.blogspot.com/2011/10/blog-pentru-basarabia.html

                            Scrisă de Elena Boguș

Chisinau the capital of Besssarabia

 I was born in Bessarabia, in the city of Chisinau, I grew up, studied and went mostly to Romania to study but I was thinking about Bessarabia, the political and economic situation, the social problems faced by the inhabitants of this country, which it has not changed at all and will not change in the coming years as long as we live with the dream of communist paradise. We young people of the 21st century suffer because of the "dreamers", because poverty and need turn you into a barbarian who struggles to survive for a better life and forget the most important things, such as history and cultural richness- spiritual life of Bessarabia.

Many people, like true patriots of the country, have sacrificed themselves to defend their homeland against their enemies, and the current generations are wasting the glory of the past, being manipulated by corrupt politicians.

Before registering for the competition, I wanted to write about Chisinau, the city where I was born, and about the historical - cultural and architectural values ​​of the Bessarabian capital. I have often wondered, walking through the city of Chisinau, if he has anything preserved from his past. Unfortunately, the historical and architectural monuments are too few to reveal the true personality of the city which would attract more tourists and investment as a true European capital that wants to become. This saddened me even more, that they ended up ruining everything urmă the next generations that will be born here will not be able to enjoy the architectural, historical and cultural objects of Bessarabia.

Chisinau is the only historical city protected by the state. And it has the largest collections of buildings worth 977 monuments. However, historic Chisinau is on the verge of extinction. During the years 2006-2011 alone, 40 state-protected monuments were removed from the earth. Another 17 buildings, declared by law as monuments, are being ruined with each passing day. Archaeological remains have the same ungrateful fate. The practice of condemning the demolition of one monument per month, from those included in the Register of Monuments in Barasarabia protected by the state, continues: even in recent months, three more buildings have been "assassinated" under the rule of law.

The problem that is visible in Chisinau is the destruction of historical Chisinau, the deplorable state of the monuments of culture, history, architecture and archeology. The cultural insensitivity of some politicians and civil servants is obvious, as well as the lack of responsibility in exercising the service obligations and their bad will.

Another problem facing Chisinau is the development and protection of so many green belts and parks in Chisinau, the future of urban gardening, pollution reduction and the creation of an environmentally friendly and energy-efficient architecture and transportation system.

Citizens and young NGOs want to keep the park and turn it into an area that city dwellers can use and be proud of. Today, only some areas of the park are used, which allows the construction of new buildings on unused land.

The city of Chisinau is known for its large number of green belts and parks. Because the current pollution and many industrial areas no longer allow the promotion of the city as sustainable and "green", the city of Chisinau could be promoted internationally as the "forest city".

Another problem that is the historic city is the preservation of monuments, the restoration of old street models in the city center, the regeneration of old street models, the regeneration of industrial areas, the adaptation of new architectures and values ​​that can be strengthened to promote Chisinau.

 Another problem is poor quality infrastructure, which needs to be considerably improved. The young people of Chisinau should be trained in preserving the natural charm of the city and its historical and cultural values, inspiring their love for their hometown. Unfortunately, Chisinau is increasingly threatened by new construction, while public squares and sidewalks are usually used as illegal parking lots.

The city of Chisinau is known for its large number of green belts and parks. Because the current pollution and many industrial areas no longer allow the promotion of the city as sustainable and "green", the city of Chisinau could be promoted internationally as the "forest city".

Another problem that is the historic city is the preservation of monuments, the restoration of old street models in the city center, the regeneration of old street models, the regeneration of industrial areas, the adaptation of new architectures and values ​​that can be strengthened to promote Chisinau.

 Another problem is poor quality infrastructure, which needs to be considerably improved. The young people of Chisinau should be trained in preserving the natural charm of the city and its historical and cultural values, inspiring their love for their hometown. Unfortunately, Chisinau is increasingly threatened by new construction, while public squares and sidewalks are usually used as illegal parking lots.

The communist regime wiped many churches, monasteries, buildings and monumental buildings from the face of the Bessarabian land. The atheist Bolsheviks tried to rewrite the history of our nation, starting with the destruction of spaces of historical and spiritual value.

Opposed to the practice of European states for the preservation of historical monuments, today's Bessarabians, inspired by the irresponsibility of politicians and the country's leadership towards the historical and cultural values ​​of our lands, tend to collapse and eradicate them. We should take an example from states that have a historical and cultural personality. We need a change and I do not mean only the economic, political, social part, but also the cultural-historical tourism part. We must promote values, beliefs, history and culture. But the situation in the economic, social and political country, which does not allow the implementation of projects to develop and bring investment in the country and in Chisinau, will be difficult for us to move forward if we do not break with the Soviet past we had and to accept in fact that we are Romanians from the Geto-Dacians and to change for the better, for a better future and a European capital.

Finally, political groups and parties, municipal administration, state administrative structures should reach a dialogue to preserve the historical and cultural heritage of the city and the country in general. To prove that they care about the Bessarabia in which they were born, the capital they lead and its inhabitants.

                                                                   Written by Elena Bogus

Recenzie de carte: Cele 5 limbi de dragoste „Secretul iubirii care durează” de Gary Chapman.

Am citit recent o carte foarte interesantă pe care vreau să o recomand tuturor să o citească. Este o carte pe care toată lumea o poate înțelege, o puteți citi foarte ușor și interesant, vă va face să vă gândiți când o veți citi.

Când am citit această carte mi-am dat seama că, fără a o înțelege în profunzimea celor 5 limbi ale iubirii, este foarte important să te iubești pe tine însuți, să te respecți și să înțelegi nevoile celuilalt.

Vă întrebați ce legătură au cele 5 limbi ale iubirii cu iubirea de sine, respectul și înțelegerea nevoilor reciproce? Are multe în comun, că totul vine de la tine din suflet și inimă.

Această carte m-a făcut să înțeleg că unele probleme în relațiile noastre sunt comunicarea, limba pe care o vorbim, să fim pe aceeași lungime de undă, să respectăm nevoile altora, să oferim zâmbete și de ce nu cadouri frumoase partenerului tău, să îi respectăm sentimentele și emoțiile pe care le are.

Nu voi spune mai multe, vă las să descoperiți singuri să vă bucurați de mesajele și liniile directoare pe care autorul le împărtășește prin această carte.

Între programele aglomerate și zilele lungi, expresia iubirii poate cădea pe marginea drumului. Uităm să complimentăm, să facem cadouri „doar pentru că”, să rămânem în îmbrățișarea noastră. Lucrurile care spun „Te iubesc” par să nu fie spuse sau trecute. Aceasta este o carte despre a o spune și a o auzi clar. Fără trucuri. Nu psihanalitic. Învață doar să exprimi iubirea în limba soțului tău.

Cu peste 12 milioane de exemplare, The 5 Love Languages ​​a transformat nenumărate relații. Ideile sale sunt simple și transmise cu claritate și umor, făcând această carte la fel de practică, pe atât de simpatică. Vei fi inspirat de poveștile din viața reală și încurajat de abordarea sa de bun simț. Citirea acestei cărți se simte ca și cum ai face o plimbare cu un prieten înțelept. Aplicarea acesteia vă va schimba relația pentru totdeauna începând de astăzi.

Căsătoria ar trebui să se bazeze pe dragoste, drepturi. Dar se pare că tu și soțul tău vorbești două limbi diferite este autorul cel mai bine vândut Dr. Gary Chapman ghidează cuplurile în identificarea, înțelegerea și vorbirea timpului calității limbii principale a soțului lor, cuvinte de afirmare, cadouri, acte de serviciu sau atingere fizică.

Învățând cele cinci limbi de dragoste, tu și soțul tău îți vei descoperi limbile de dragoste unice și vei învăța pași practici în a te iubi cu adevărat.

Capitolele sunt clasificate în funcție de limbajul iubirii pentru o referință ușoară și fiecare se încheie cu pași simpli pentru a exprima o limbă specifică soțului / soției și a vă ghida căsătoria în direcția corectă. O evaluare a limbilor de dragoste nou concepută vă va ajuta să înțelegeți și să vă consolidați relația. Puteți construi împreună o căsătorie durabilă, iubitoare.

 Autorul cărților, un consilier în relații, are o pregătire educațională care include antropologie, educație religioasă și filosofie. Scopul cărții este de a ajuta oamenii să-și arate soțul / soția în moduri în care vor fi primite. Se bazează pe premisa că, la fel cum există diferite limbaje verbale în întreaga lume, există și diferite „limbaje de dragoste” și, dacă nu vorbim la fel ca soțul nostru, probabil că nu ne aud mesajele de dragoste, nici îi primim pe ai lor.

 Cele cinci limbi de dragoste sunt relativ scurte și oferă exemple și exerciții care pot fi utile cititorilor. cartea scoate în evidență faptul că acțiunile pe care le putem face arată dragostea noastră față de partenerul nostru nu sunt neapărat primite ca indentate, amintind cititorului că oamenii experimentează lumea diferit. Acesta poate fi un concept important atunci când încercăm să înțelegem nevoile și sentimentele partenerilor noștri.

                                                   Scris de Elena Bogus

 

Chisinau the city of the future.

This year, the Feast of the City happened on a Friday, outside it was a time when it was cloudy, when the sun came out. In the morning he sang music, played choirs, ate small and served wine. Out of curiosity, I have the City Feast.

People had fun, enjoyed, ate and drank, what was left for the man to do on holidays.

But the inhabitants of the city of Chisinau ever wondered what Chisinau looked like in the past, from a historical point of view. Unfortunately, the inhabitants of the city have no idea how their city appeared and in what year it was formed as a city, but due to the difficulties we are facing now.

But this is not a real reason not to know the history of the city where they were born and worked a lifetime.

I came up with the idea to write about the 575 years since the first documentary attestation of the city of Chisinau. I was curious to see what it looks like in the past, what it looks like now and what it will look like in the future?

In my city - Chisinau, it is a city full of life, of welcoming people and beautiful at heart. Chisinau is located on a picturesque place, on the seven hills, the city makes a pleasant impression on guests and residents of this country.

It attracts you with its inner beauty, with spacious and well-appointed parks, but the historical and architectural monuments are too few to reveal a true personality of the city that would attract many tourists and investments as a true European capital that wants to become.

 Now that he is 575 years old, Chisinau does not show that he is this age, he has nothing preserved and preserved from that interwar period.

 What to attract foreign tourists if Chisinau has nothing from its past?

The interwar charm that fascinated many tourists who visited this city and many inhabitants of those times.

 It's as if now that I close my eyes, I imagine those charming times with gentlemen and ladies, walking on paved roads.

I feel that aristocratic bohemian air that makes you sometimes dream with open eyes that you would like to throw yourself for a few moments in the historical past of Chisinau.

After a troubled history with many unfortunate events, after the war, Chisinau becomes ruined, poor and destroyed. Returned after a long time from Russian rule, Chisinau becomes an attractive city for many visitors of those times. They become a spiritual-cultural and architectural city, becoming today a large urban center and famous for its beautiful places and unforgettable landscapes, which attract many tourists from all over the world.

At present we know what Chisinau looks like, with serious problems the lack of historical and cultural identity. We hope that these problems facing Chisinau will be solved in time and we will know how to appreciate more the city where we were born.

The most important thing to do for the generations that are and for those who come after, we should be aware that the city is ours and our children's.

What we leave them, if we forget to take care of the city, I can say that practically nothing. If we destroy what is left, we will be left with nothing, but this shows that we are irresponsible and unconscious inhabitants that we are destroying everything around us.

But on the contrary, we should be responsible and conscious inhabitants, we should preserve and consolidate the true cultural, spiritual and architectural values ​​of this city and country.

After a long journey into the past and present, we should go into the future. What will Chisinau look like in the future? I'm really thinking about what Chisinau will look like in the future, and I can't imagine?

You are just trying to imagine and I hope that there will be parks and nature reserves, historical and architectural monuments will be protected, muses will be consolidated and preserved that will delight the inhabitants of the city.

We will be more responsible and aware of the things we will have around us. We will respect and appreciate you more for the things we knew how to preserve and consolidate for the generation that will follow us.

The city will look cleaner and brighter on all main and secondary streets, there will be total protection.

I tried to imagine other interesting images, a city Since Fiction, as in today's movies, sounds a bit crazy, but why not imagine other things, we do not know what it will look like in the future if we do nothing for the city.

It will certainly be an industrialized and rich city, the inhabitants will be proud of what they have done for their city, that they have made a welcoming and beautiful city for the attraction of tourists and for the next generation.

                                 Written by Elena Bogus

Book Review : The 5 love Languages " The Secret to Love That Lasts" by Garry Chapman

 I recently read a very interesting book that I want to recommend to everyone to read. It is a book that everyone can understand, you can read it very easily and interestingly, it will make you think when you read it.

When I read this book I realized that without understanding it in the depth of the 5 languages ​​of love it is very important to love yourself, to respect yourself and to understand the needs of the other.

Do you wonder what the 5 languages ​​of love have to do with self-love, respect and understanding each other's needs? It has a lot in common, that everything comes from you from your soul and heart.

This book made me understand that some problems in our relationships are communication, the language we speak, to be on the same wavelength, to respect the needs of others, to give smiles and why not beautiful gifts to your partner, to respect his feelings and the emotions he has.

I will not say more, I leave you to discover for yourself to enjoy the messages and guidelines that the author shares through this book.

Between busy schedules and long days, the expression of love can fall by the wayside. We forget to compliment, to give gifts "just because", to stay in our embrace. Things that say "I love you" don't seem to be said or passed. This is a book about saying it and hearing it clearly. No tricks. Not psychoanalytic. Just learn to express love in your husband's language.

With over 12 million copies, The 5 Love Languages ​​has transformed countless relationships. His ideas are simple and conveyed with clarity and humor, making this book as practical as it is sympathetic. You will be inspired by real life stories and encouraged by his common sense approach. Reading this book feels like taking a walk with a wise friend. Applying it will change your relationship forever starting today.

Marriage should be based on love, rights. But does it seems as though you and your spouse are speaking two different language is bestselling author Dr. Gary  Chapman is guides couples in identifying, understanding  and speaking their spouse's primary language quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service or physical touch.

By learning the five love languages, you and yours spouse will discover your unique love languages and learn practical steps in truly loving each other.

Chapters are categorized by love language for easy reference, and each one ends with simple steps to express a specific language to your spouse and guide your marriage in the right direction. A newly designed love languages assessment will help you understand and strengthen your relationship. You can build a lasting, loving marriage together.

 The books author, a relationship counselor, has educational background that includes anthropology, religious education, and philosophy. The purpose of the book is to help people show to their spouse in ways that it will be received. It's based on the premise that, just as there are different verbal languages throughout the world, there are also different " love languages", and if we are not speaking the same one as our spouse they are likely not hearing our messages of love, nor are we receiving theirs.

 The Five Love Languages relatively short, and provides examples and exercises that may be useful to readers. the book highlights that the actions we may take show our love to our partner are not necessarily received as indented, reminding the reader that people experience the world differently. This can be an important concept when trying to understand our partners needs and feelings.

                                                   Written by Elena Bogus

A way to love yourself!

"Loving yourself is a wonderful adventure; it's like learning to fly. What if we all had the power to fly when your heart demands it?" (Louise Hay)
 

If this article seems dry or uninteresting just because I wrote it in a hurry and I did not put any emotion or any feeling of mine that would represent me.

But in fact this article totally represents me because I am also in this situation to find out about self-love.

One of the other days, together with a friend of mine, I had a very interesting discussion that I never discussed on this topic.

I was trying to explain to him what self-love meant, as I understood it, how much I read on the internet or in books. But I never thought deeply about it and wondered if I loved myself or not.

Some time passed, while my mind made me think of Self-Love, more. It means that I also have this lack of Love, towards me, if my intuition reminded me of this wonderful subject that was new to me.

We have noticed that we live in a time when we are lost, confused and chaotic. The time has come for change of self, for closeness to us, and to God.

We are at a time when we need to change something in ourselves, to respect ourselves. Let's capitalize on our potential. And more to love ourselves. For most of us, we do not know what it means and how to love ourselves. Because we were educated, where there was not much talk about self-love, and it did not show us how to love ourselves.

Much has been written and talked about self-love; and yet little is known. Some people think that it is not good to love yourself as a sign of infatuation, pride, selfishness and pride.

Nobody teaches us about self-love. Why? Because neither our parents (most of them) were educated, nor their parents, etc.

How can a parent teach their children something they do not know? If parents hate themselves, neglect themselves, sacrifice for others, how can the child understand what self-love, inner peace and peace of mind mean?

Is it also said that a child abused in the family will not stop loving his parents, but will stop loving himself? Why because a standard child is the parents: if they show their love, the child flourishes because he knows that moms and dads accept him; but if the parents do not show their love, the child will consider himself bad, naughty (or other words said "with love" by the parent) and that he will not deserve anything from them and from life.

 If a child is repeatedly told that self-love is a sin, that he must love everyone, everyone else, and put himself last because that is how life is, he will either shut himself in and avoid it. of love, or he will throw himself into the arms of the first comers to receive the approval and validation that he does not know how to give.

A child who is not told about self-love will become a teenager and then an adult who will try to cover the gaps inside with alcohol, tobacco, drugs, food, sex, casual relationships, verbal and physical aggression. That is, he will become like those who deprived him of love.

A man who ceases to love cannot have balanced, harmonious relationships. Why? Because those I meet are chosen based on what that man lacks: he lacked intimacy, he will have multiple relationships, he will lack affection, he will have many addictions, he will lack value in his own eyes, he will seek to make money with price.

When a person ceases to love, all relationships in all areas become toxic.

We have reached a point where we need to reflect more on ourselves, get to know each other, love each other and respect each other more. But let us not forget that without God, we cannot know our love for ourselves and our neighbor.

These days, I have wondered why God loves us, and why He loves us so much, without upsetting us, punishing us, or hating us. He loves us as we are, with our weaknesses, with our small flaws, he loves us equally, without preferences.

God always forgives us, loves us, is merciful to us, is good and wise.

What does self-love mean? What does it mean to love yourself? I have often heard that if you love yourself, you will attract people who love you. Honestly, don't I know exactly what that means? Do I know but don't realize it yet? Maybe I should learn more to read more about personal development.

What comes to mind is not to do what you don't like to do. In conclusion, if I don't like to do something, I shouldn't do it. That means self-love.

Another thought is to be more understanding and merciful, that is, more sensitive to the pain of others. But I want to make myself understood not to be understood by using you for my goodness, to be used, humiliated and not to be respected by those around me, it is important to be respected and understood.

Another thought to take care of myself, the physique of soul and mind. To listen to myself, to give myself the love I deserve, to capitalize and support myself more.

Many understand and support it as selfishness, but it is not true. We are all selfish in one way or another. We all want to be loved, appreciated, valued at our fair value. But until we start with ourselves, then nothing will change in our lives.

We have to trust ourselves, to capitalize on ourselves, to accept ourselves, we have to understand that we are not perfect, they are vulnerable people, with defects and qualities. We must know ourselves, connect with our soul, work on our relationship with God, be in harmony with ourselves, then we will reach success, well-being and acceptance.

When I talk about these words I talk about myself. You always wonder how self-love manifests itself, to understand that it is not selfishness or egocentrism.

You can manifest your self-love differently, from the way you arrange yourself when you stay at home or when you go out in front of everyone, to the food you eat every day and which can create a state of happiness or continuous guilt. . From the care you give to your physical appearance, through the sports hours you practice constantly, to the time invested in your personal and professional development through different types of content that you read or listen to.

You always wonder why self-love is important to you. When you love yourself, without realizing it, you start to no longer tolerate behaviors and actions of those around you that bother you or make you feel uncomfortable. Self-love helps you to have around you only the people and things that constantly help your development and happiness.

You always wonder how you can develop your self-love. Try to eliminate the people around you who hurt you and make you feel inferior.

You must learn to give your attention and time to yourself for the first time, without feeling selfish or guilty about the time invested in your own desires and needs.

Always focus on the qualities you have. Show daily gratitude for what you have, accept that you are not perfect and that you do not know them all. You find something every day that you are proud of and satisfied with, start with small things. You will gradually notice the positive impact they bring to you.

You must always be optimistic and trust yourself when you love yourself and others will. If you noticed those good days when you are happy with yourself and everything seems to be going differently. People around you look at you differently and talk to you differently. Attract positive events and people around you. You are what you attract, if you are in a state of negativity and aggression and always dissatisfied, you will attract such people around you. The power of attraction is one of the oldest and most powerful energies present in this universe. Learn to be happy and content with yourself and only then will you get everything you want from others.

It is important to understand that before we receive, we must learn to offer ourselves. Let us appreciate and respect ourselves enough to be self-sufficient. Only when you get to offer yourself for the first time will you see that the people around you will be attracted by the energy and self-confidence you emanate.

Another thought that came to me is not to worry, to do what we enjoy, to be patient with yourself, to forgive yourself, to offer love.

We are always worried about situations that do not belong to us and we cannot control. If we have such situations then to be more optimistic and confident we will solve your problem. For when you are stressed and nervous, you can't see things from one side, from an angle.

Worries do nothing but block you even more in the situation you are in, lower your energy and stop you from acting. I say it from my own experience about worries, and I realized it doesn't help. It exhausted me emotionally and psychologically.

Let's do what we enjoy. Enjoy life as if you were on vacation. Don't stumble into all sorts of excuses and blockages to not do what relaxes you and makes you happy. Overcome barriers and act.

We will have to be patient with ourselves. Just as you trust yourself when you are successful, be tolerant when you have failed to do what you set out to do.

We must offer love. Love others not for what they are, but for what you are in relation to them, and in this way the expectations disappear.

You have to accept your downsides as well. Make a list of 5 reasons why you don't like yourself, the failures and the qualities you don't love about yourself.

We need to love our bodies and do sports with a smile. Give up physical exercises that do not make you smile and choose activities that make you feel good. We don't do sports because we have to, but because we like what we do.

Let's do something for myself. It's great when you do all kinds of things for those around you, but it's even more wonderful when you do something just for yourself. When you are the only one who gets all your attention.

We've found a simple guide that will help you see only yourself first.

A first step to solving any problem is to admit that you have one. There are many signs that can indicate that you do not love yourself too much: you are too critical of yourself, you continue to remain in a toxic relationship, you neglect your health and you do not complete your goals. You should take a break and start taking care of your life. Identify the problems that exist, then find the best solutions.

A second step is to write a list of what you like about yourself. Even if it seems difficult, you will have to make a list in which to write everything you like about yourself, including personality traits, physical traits for which you are grateful, your achievements, things you like, hobbies, passions. Keep the list in your address book to read every time you feel sick. She will show you that you are wonderful.

A third list is what you don't like about yourself. This list would be like a slap in the face. However, it is a very important step, because then you will be able to identify the weaknesses, defects and aspects that you still need to work on. Don't be scared while reading it, all people face insecurity. Most of the time, anxiety and negative energies are due to one of the factors on the list.

You have to remember you learn every day. Accept yourself and feel good in your skin. All people have flaws, so don't let negative thoughts affect your life. Stop thinking about other people's opinions and you know you don't have to tell anyone anything. You work on yourself.

But the most important thing is to take care of yourself. We need to adopt a healthy lifestyle, go for medical check-ups when you need to, travel, practice your hobbies, play and play sports regularly, feel happy, etc.

You need to see what effects they will have on you!

We must also love the negative parts. Let's be aware that we created them to meet your need. But now you can as new, positive ways to meet those needs. So get rid of old negative patterns with love.

                                                         Written by Bogus Elena!