A way to love yourself!

"Loving yourself is a wonderful adventure; it's like learning to fly. What if we all had the power to fly when your heart demands it?" (Louise Hay)
 

If this article seems dry or uninteresting just because I wrote it in a hurry and I did not put any emotion or any feeling of mine that would represent me.

But in fact this article totally represents me because I am also in this situation to find out about self-love.

One of the other days, together with a friend of mine, I had a very interesting discussion that I never discussed on this topic.

I was trying to explain to him what self-love meant, as I understood it, how much I read on the internet or in books. But I never thought deeply about it and wondered if I loved myself or not.

Some time passed, while my mind made me think of Self-Love, more. It means that I also have this lack of Love, towards me, if my intuition reminded me of this wonderful subject that was new to me.

We have noticed that we live in a time when we are lost, confused and chaotic. The time has come for change of self, for closeness to us, and to God.

We are at a time when we need to change something in ourselves, to respect ourselves. Let's capitalize on our potential. And more to love ourselves. For most of us, we do not know what it means and how to love ourselves. Because we were educated, where there was not much talk about self-love, and it did not show us how to love ourselves.

Much has been written and talked about self-love; and yet little is known. Some people think that it is not good to love yourself as a sign of infatuation, pride, selfishness and pride.

Nobody teaches us about self-love. Why? Because neither our parents (most of them) were educated, nor their parents, etc.

How can a parent teach their children something they do not know? If parents hate themselves, neglect themselves, sacrifice for others, how can the child understand what self-love, inner peace and peace of mind mean?

Is it also said that a child abused in the family will not stop loving his parents, but will stop loving himself? Why because a standard child is the parents: if they show their love, the child flourishes because he knows that moms and dads accept him; but if the parents do not show their love, the child will consider himself bad, naughty (or other words said "with love" by the parent) and that he will not deserve anything from them and from life.

 If a child is repeatedly told that self-love is a sin, that he must love everyone, everyone else, and put himself last because that is how life is, he will either shut himself in and avoid it. of love, or he will throw himself into the arms of the first comers to receive the approval and validation that he does not know how to give.

A child who is not told about self-love will become a teenager and then an adult who will try to cover the gaps inside with alcohol, tobacco, drugs, food, sex, casual relationships, verbal and physical aggression. That is, he will become like those who deprived him of love.

A man who ceases to love cannot have balanced, harmonious relationships. Why? Because those I meet are chosen based on what that man lacks: he lacked intimacy, he will have multiple relationships, he will lack affection, he will have many addictions, he will lack value in his own eyes, he will seek to make money with price.

When a person ceases to love, all relationships in all areas become toxic.

We have reached a point where we need to reflect more on ourselves, get to know each other, love each other and respect each other more. But let us not forget that without God, we cannot know our love for ourselves and our neighbor.

These days, I have wondered why God loves us, and why He loves us so much, without upsetting us, punishing us, or hating us. He loves us as we are, with our weaknesses, with our small flaws, he loves us equally, without preferences.

God always forgives us, loves us, is merciful to us, is good and wise.

What does self-love mean? What does it mean to love yourself? I have often heard that if you love yourself, you will attract people who love you. Honestly, don't I know exactly what that means? Do I know but don't realize it yet? Maybe I should learn more to read more about personal development.

What comes to mind is not to do what you don't like to do. In conclusion, if I don't like to do something, I shouldn't do it. That means self-love.

Another thought is to be more understanding and merciful, that is, more sensitive to the pain of others. But I want to make myself understood not to be understood by using you for my goodness, to be used, humiliated and not to be respected by those around me, it is important to be respected and understood.

Another thought to take care of myself, the physique of soul and mind. To listen to myself, to give myself the love I deserve, to capitalize and support myself more.

Many understand and support it as selfishness, but it is not true. We are all selfish in one way or another. We all want to be loved, appreciated, valued at our fair value. But until we start with ourselves, then nothing will change in our lives.

We have to trust ourselves, to capitalize on ourselves, to accept ourselves, we have to understand that we are not perfect, they are vulnerable people, with defects and qualities. We must know ourselves, connect with our soul, work on our relationship with God, be in harmony with ourselves, then we will reach success, well-being and acceptance.

When I talk about these words I talk about myself. You always wonder how self-love manifests itself, to understand that it is not selfishness or egocentrism.

You can manifest your self-love differently, from the way you arrange yourself when you stay at home or when you go out in front of everyone, to the food you eat every day and which can create a state of happiness or continuous guilt. . From the care you give to your physical appearance, through the sports hours you practice constantly, to the time invested in your personal and professional development through different types of content that you read or listen to.

You always wonder why self-love is important to you. When you love yourself, without realizing it, you start to no longer tolerate behaviors and actions of those around you that bother you or make you feel uncomfortable. Self-love helps you to have around you only the people and things that constantly help your development and happiness.

You always wonder how you can develop your self-love. Try to eliminate the people around you who hurt you and make you feel inferior.

You must learn to give your attention and time to yourself for the first time, without feeling selfish or guilty about the time invested in your own desires and needs.

Always focus on the qualities you have. Show daily gratitude for what you have, accept that you are not perfect and that you do not know them all. You find something every day that you are proud of and satisfied with, start with small things. You will gradually notice the positive impact they bring to you.

You must always be optimistic and trust yourself when you love yourself and others will. If you noticed those good days when you are happy with yourself and everything seems to be going differently. People around you look at you differently and talk to you differently. Attract positive events and people around you. You are what you attract, if you are in a state of negativity and aggression and always dissatisfied, you will attract such people around you. The power of attraction is one of the oldest and most powerful energies present in this universe. Learn to be happy and content with yourself and only then will you get everything you want from others.

It is important to understand that before we receive, we must learn to offer ourselves. Let us appreciate and respect ourselves enough to be self-sufficient. Only when you get to offer yourself for the first time will you see that the people around you will be attracted by the energy and self-confidence you emanate.

Another thought that came to me is not to worry, to do what we enjoy, to be patient with yourself, to forgive yourself, to offer love.

We are always worried about situations that do not belong to us and we cannot control. If we have such situations then to be more optimistic and confident we will solve your problem. For when you are stressed and nervous, you can't see things from one side, from an angle.

Worries do nothing but block you even more in the situation you are in, lower your energy and stop you from acting. I say it from my own experience about worries, and I realized it doesn't help. It exhausted me emotionally and psychologically.

Let's do what we enjoy. Enjoy life as if you were on vacation. Don't stumble into all sorts of excuses and blockages to not do what relaxes you and makes you happy. Overcome barriers and act.

We will have to be patient with ourselves. Just as you trust yourself when you are successful, be tolerant when you have failed to do what you set out to do.

We must offer love. Love others not for what they are, but for what you are in relation to them, and in this way the expectations disappear.

You have to accept your downsides as well. Make a list of 5 reasons why you don't like yourself, the failures and the qualities you don't love about yourself.

We need to love our bodies and do sports with a smile. Give up physical exercises that do not make you smile and choose activities that make you feel good. We don't do sports because we have to, but because we like what we do.

Let's do something for myself. It's great when you do all kinds of things for those around you, but it's even more wonderful when you do something just for yourself. When you are the only one who gets all your attention.

We've found a simple guide that will help you see only yourself first.

A first step to solving any problem is to admit that you have one. There are many signs that can indicate that you do not love yourself too much: you are too critical of yourself, you continue to remain in a toxic relationship, you neglect your health and you do not complete your goals. You should take a break and start taking care of your life. Identify the problems that exist, then find the best solutions.

A second step is to write a list of what you like about yourself. Even if it seems difficult, you will have to make a list in which to write everything you like about yourself, including personality traits, physical traits for which you are grateful, your achievements, things you like, hobbies, passions. Keep the list in your address book to read every time you feel sick. She will show you that you are wonderful.

A third list is what you don't like about yourself. This list would be like a slap in the face. However, it is a very important step, because then you will be able to identify the weaknesses, defects and aspects that you still need to work on. Don't be scared while reading it, all people face insecurity. Most of the time, anxiety and negative energies are due to one of the factors on the list.

You have to remember you learn every day. Accept yourself and feel good in your skin. All people have flaws, so don't let negative thoughts affect your life. Stop thinking about other people's opinions and you know you don't have to tell anyone anything. You work on yourself.

But the most important thing is to take care of yourself. We need to adopt a healthy lifestyle, go for medical check-ups when you need to, travel, practice your hobbies, play and play sports regularly, feel happy, etc.

You need to see what effects they will have on you!

We must also love the negative parts. Let's be aware that we created them to meet your need. But now you can as new, positive ways to meet those needs. So get rid of old negative patterns with love.

                                                         Written by Bogus Elena!